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\"pearlsHippocampus\"<\/a><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s talk for a moment about Netiquette in the Professional World.<\/p>\n

There is an ever-changing, evolving set of procedures and responsibilities that support productive and clear communications between us as we work together both in realtime and in cyberspace. As more and more of y\u2019all who have grown up with the web as a part of your world of cyberplay and communications – something not even thought about in being inherently accepted as a part of Life – the rules that apply to our communication with one another will continue to evolve.<\/p>\n

For this Moment, then, I offer some guidelines for successful relationship-building and maintenance in a wired and wireless world.<\/p>\n

The first thing to remember is that not everyone in our industries is the same age; nor is everyone of any<\/i> age necessarily at the same level of CyberAbility at any given time. Daily, new 40-, 50- and 60-somethings find themselves (finally!) embracing the web and relinquishing their hold on old ways of communicating. If one is younger and just entering this work force, it will support potential success and welcome to remember that what may be acceptable amongst one\u2019s peers may seem rude or even ignorant to people with whom one might want to forge relationships or perhaps even from whom one might be seeking employment.<\/p>\n

Take nothing for granted. Often, a few extra seconds of thought when communicating will reap bountiful rewards. Some of the smartest, most accomplished people in these industries are still just a tad intimidated by the web, simply out of unfamiliarity with it. Having put off the task of becoming familiar with the myriad tools, platforms and formats within which communication and collaboration is now taking place; there may be a part within even the most respected hero that avoids the experience of not knowing how this thing works.<\/p>\n

There can be a sense of having missed The Moment when it was accessible and now finding oneself behind the proverbial Curve.<\/p>\n

Everyone will get there, in the long run. But, until all y\u2019all who are now in your 20\u2019s are in your 40\u2019s and 50\u2019s, there will still be those in your sphere, those with whom you will want to work and those from whom you can still learn with whom you will be far more successful by remaining sensitive to the separate learning curve on which each may be with respect to the web.<\/p>\n

Inherent in that are some old rules of communication that, while evolving, will be helpful to keep in mind.<\/p>\n

In no particular order, then:<\/p>\n

Personalize your communication whenever possible.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

While using the Default Message when seeking to \u201cLinkIn\u201d or \u201cFriend\u201d someone may be acceptable amongst youthful peers; it is often seen as rude, dismissive or just plain lazy by a lot of people who receive such. Until recently, both FaceBook and LinkedIn offered \u201csend a message\u201d alongside the \u201cinvite\u201d field. I notice that both of those have been removed; undermining the potential personalization of these communiqu\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

My suggestion? Take a moment to shoot a message to the individual you are approaching to iBond, saying you are going to send them a friend or link request and would appreciate their consideration. Less than a minute for a sentence or two will help your entreaty shine over the pack and likely be remembered at a crucial time in the future that may involve opportunity.<\/p>\n

Just sayin\u2019. A simple note of a line or two that gives context to your ping. Not a \u201cletter,\u201d simply a line…<\/p>\n

Full disclosure; I used to just ignore people on FB and LinkedIn who just sent the request without personalizing. These days, I tend to cut young people some slack, especially on FB. After speaking before so many academic institutions and at conferences; when I see that they are younger, I just accept the culture. I am a little less generous on LinkedIn, as it is a professional networking site. Before I give someone access to my network, I want to know where they work and how they know me.<\/p>\n

These days, though, with the spread of \u201cimho,\u201d my iBook and this blog, the proliferation of the Default has become much greater. I have to accept this.<\/p>\n

Each time I receive a LinkedIn request that says, \u201cBecause I trust you\u2026,\u201d though, I have to chuckle. This person doesn\u2019t know me, how can s\/he trust me?<\/p>\n

You know who stands out, though? The ones who send me a note. One sentence: \u201cI saw you speak at\u2026,\u201d \u201cI read your post on\u2026\u201d Simple, easy, eminently memorable.<\/p>\n

Find ways to personalize; it will serve you.<\/p>\n

Stay in Communication<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

As you network, and as you benefit from that network, stay in touch with your contacts and especially<\/i> with your mentors.<\/p>\n

If you get advice from someone:<\/p>\n